Enter week two of social distancing – how are you doing? Depending on where you fall on the introvert/extrovert scale I can probably guess. Technology and social media allow most of us to stay pretty well connected but our current circumstance is causing more physical isolation than social – especially for those that live alone.
The frequency I’m hugged or even touched isn’t something I think about – until I’m deficient. I’m fortunate to have a cadre of friends that are huggers and I recently returned from a family gathering where I soaked up cuddles and hugs from my great niece and nephew like an empty sponge. Sadly, all that is off limits now.
How important is touch? God designed us so that touch builds bonding, trust and physical well-being. Scientific studies bear this out showing that even random touch from a stranger reduces loneliness, anxiety and feelings of exclusion. In extreme cases, babies have failed to thrive or even died due to lack of touch. Jesus came in the flesh and touched those who were hurting signaling His care and their acceptance.
So how can we help during this season of wide-spread deprivation? Here are my thoughts:
- If you’re quarantined in a family unit – still take time to sit close or cuddle, hug, and make intentional positive contact. Your family may need it now more than ever, especially if things are tense.
- Seek additional ways to increase social contact with those you know are home alone – call, video chat, drive by and wave from a distance or bring a porch package. It can’t replace touch but it might be that extra interaction that keeps them going. They are experiencing an added layer of isolation.
- Keep your pet close, if you have one. It’s good for both of you!
- When this is over – don’t forget! Hug the widow and widower at church, put an arm around the young man who has relocated for a job, and hold hands with the sick. Our care facilities are full of people who are touched only during feeding and bathing times. We can do better!
We are not just spiritual beings. God gave us a body and designed us with a need for touch. He even came down in the flesh to touch our world. Through the Spirit, He has now called us to be His body. We get to embrace, touch, comfort and encourage in His name. We are now the physical body that He uses.
I’m looking forward to the day we can once again greet another with a giant hug. Yet I also want to remember what it feels like in isolation so I will be intentional about reaching out to those in chronic need. Let’s be His hands and give a holy hug! It’s good for the giver as well as the getter.
Greet one another with a holy kiss. 2 Corinthians 13:12
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